[:en]How to teach your children to be more organised. Voices from workshop participants[:ja]子どもにどうやってお片づけを教えるか☆講座のご感想[:]

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Hi all,

The other day I held a class for charity to “Create happy spaces for mother and child”.

While I was able to impart a lot of what I had wanted to say, I feel that there may have been too much information for those who were participating for the first time. Next time around I want to extend the time a little so we can talk more!

Should I have the chance, it would probably be best to split the class into two sessions, a bit like my current group sessions on closet organising. With just a little more time, I think that participants could absorb so much more content. And I will also strive to convey more of the essence of the information I want to impart.

As for more private matters, I noticed a few things during the two weeks of my daughter’s school holiday. In our busy life, sometimes we overlook or even miss the moment of what our children are doing whether that be seeing them playing with friends, going to after school classes or getting ready for dinner. If only we had a little bit more time to spare for us to interact, as a child’s potential grows rapidly.

While it may take time, I let her to think for herself and do things on her own. Making mistakes is absolutely okay, as it’s just another part of life, and that extends to letting her tidy up on her own. How many times in the past have I ended up saying to her “let me do it” – I’m sure a lot of you mothers out there can agree.

But the idea that tidying up makes your surroundings more comfortable for yourself should resonate with children. During the holidays, my daughter had a friend come over to play, and she began tidying up on her own because “my friend is coming over”. If this had happened before now I would have ended up butting in, but this was not the time nor place.

I also received some testimonials from the event.

I regret that I didn’t have my child think for himself since (I thought) he was so young.

I would like to practice what I have learnt today with my child.

The following is a testimonial that focuses a bit more on tidying up:

Today I was made to realise that I was mistaken to think that my child already understood how to tidy up. I was given a lot to think about in regards to using tidying-up as a way to impart self-confidence to a child, respecting their intentions and sorting out belongings. Now I feel a strong need to be in a pleasant environment. Up until now, tidying up has been done from my own point of view, but I feel that I must find a way of tidying that my child can also enjoy. I became aware that I made all of the choices during the process of tidying up.

I would like show all of you the ideas that I have about how children can choose their own way of storing their belongings.

What I’ve found interesting also is the many questions I’ve received about the participants’ husbands tidying up.

I’ve heard all your stories, I think that it would be a fantastic idea for me to create a program for husband and child and “tidying up”. I would like to know hints about shaping the male opinion.

Absolutely!

Children who are highly observant may make remarks such as this: “Mummy puts away Daddy’s things, so why do I have to do it?”

A program aims towards men who enjoy child-rearing with similar contents must be so much fun for the families.

This is for a better life for everyone in the family to enjoy their lifestyle. And I also would like to help out everyone at my best!

ERI
Organised LifeStyle Consultant (Singapore/Tokyo)

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こんにちは。
先日チャリティで開かせてもらった『ママと子どものためのハッピーな部屋作り』講座。

まだまだ話したいことも沢山でしたが、初めて参加される方には情報が多すぎたかも。
今後は少し時間を長くして、もっと話した〜い！
もしくはクローゼットのグループレッスンのように2回に分けてもいいかもしれません。
少し時間があいたほうが、より多くの内容を吸収できるかと。
私もより多くのエッセンスをお伝えできるよう、つとめていきます！

私事ですが、ムスメの2週間のお休み中、色々と気づいたことがあります。
普段は放課後のプレイデートや習い事、夕食の準備などで見れていなかった部分。

こちらが少し余裕をもって対応すれば、子どもの可能性ってどんどん伸びるんだと。
時間がかかってもいいから、最後まで考えさせたり、やらせてみたり。
失敗してもいいから、自分で片をつけるところまでやらせてみたり。

あぁ、これまでどれだけ「私が」やってしまっていたことか。

お部屋を整えて、子どもが自ら動きやすい環境を整えることにも通じるな〜と。
お休みの間、お友達が遊びに来てくれたりもしたのですが、
「住所」の決まっているモノを、「お友達くるから〜」と自ら片づけ始めました。
これまでだったら、私がチャチャッとやってしまっていたから、本人は出る幕なし。
もちろんモチベーションもなし。

講座でのご感想にもありました。

子供が小さいからと自分で考えさせることをあまりさせなかったと
反省しました。
今日教えて頂いたことを子供と一緒に実践していきたいと思います。

以下はもう少しお片づけにフォーカスした内容のご感想です。

片付け方を子供はもう分かっている、という間違ったスタンスに
立っていた事に気づかされました。

子どもに自身をつけさせるお片づけ、本人の意思を尊重してあげる物の分別、
色々と考えさせられました。
私自身が心地よい空間にいたいという思いが強かったと思います。
今まで片づけは自分の目線でやって来ましたが、子どもが楽しくなる
お片づけの工夫をしなくてはと思いました。

お片づけのプロセスの中で”選択する”という部分を全て私自身が
していたことに気付きました。
本人に選ばせる収納の方法を考えさせることをプレゼントにしたいと思います。

おもしろかったのがご主人のお片づけについての
ご質問もいくつか頂いた事。

皆さんのお話をうかがって、夫と子どもの”お片づけ”はセットだなと思います。
男性側の意識を変えていくコツを知りたいと思います。

確かに！
観察力の高いお子さん、
「ママはパパのものを片付けるのに、どうして私は自分でやらなきゃいけないの？」と。
おっしゃる通り。

イクメン向けのお片づけ講座、楽しいかもしれませんね☆

シンガポールでの生活が、家族みんなにとってより良いものになるように。
私ももっとお手伝いできたらと思います。

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